The Benefits of Talking

Let’s Talk About Talking

At The Dark Arts Of we talk about the benefits of talking. “The more we talk The more we heal” is our message, but what does it all mean? We believe that talking is a great way towards growth and healing. Let’s talk about talking.

How can talking about our emotions benefit us?

Your emotions are yours. They belong to you. They are a part of you. When you suppress your feelings, for yourself or because of others, you are denying yourself those parts of you. If you hide them because of how others feel about them, you are giving other people the power to dictate who you are. If you hide them because of how you feel about them, you rob yourself of being you. This may lead to a loss in self confidence. Remember, your emotions are yours, and how others feel about them is for them to deal with.

Talking about how you feel allows you to start to understand how you feel. To talk about them, you must first think about them. Introspection is such a powerful tool for growth and healing. As you start to think about your emotions, and why you feel them, you may feel less like they are consuming you. You will be able to acknowledge where they are coming from. The “negative” emotions you feel, and their sources, could allow you to set boundaries if those emotions are in relation to other’s actions.

When you talk to someone else about how you feel you are being vulnerable. You are trusting them with what you are saying. This vulnerability is the first step in opening up. As you start to trust, and share who you really are, you allow a deeper connection to form. Trust can start to build and fear can start to subside. Over time this increased vulnerability can lead to more self confidence. As you start to share and trust you may also rethink how you felt in these situations before, which can be healing. It’s important, as you continue to build relationships through vulnerability, that you set boundaries and let others know what those are. Do not accept people constantly overstepping your boundaries. The boundaries are there to protect you while you are being vulnerable.

Sometimes it may be too uncomfortable to talk to someone we know. The fear of judgement or lack of acceptance of who you are or what you’re feeling can prevent you from talking to those you know. It can be easier to talk to a stranger. It does not always have to be a professional, though there are many benefits in doing that. If a professional (therapist, social worker, or other psychologist), seems like too much of a first step find a meetup group or someone who appears open to hearing from others. Look for someone that has been through their own journey. Set proper boundaries and ask before just unloading. You may be surprised at the connections you can make.

The connections with others, setting healthy boundaries, reframing negative thoughts, and self confidence will all help you grow and heal. You are not “You” without your emotions. A more full, complete, and authentic “you” will emerge as you acknowledge, and talk about, all the emotions you feel.

Your path to “You”, with growth and healing, starts with talking about how you feel. Over time others will see a new version of you. The ones who matter will embrace you, the one who don’t will leave or be pushed away. You owe it to yourself to grow and heal into the new “you”. Talking about your emotions will put you on that path.